Finding a Divorce Coach

Ending a relationship is rarely straightforward, and while a solicitor can handle the legal aspects, the emotional and practical hurdles may require different kinds of help. This is where a divorce coach steps in—someone to assist in navigating the emotional fallout of separation, building resilience, and empowering you to make considered decisions about your future.

Divorce Coaching at HM & Co. Solicitors

Why might you need a divorce coach?

  • Emotional Support: They offer strategies for coping with the stress, anxiety, and upheaval caused by divorce.
  • Practical Guidance: Whether you’re deciding if separation is the right path, dealing with the immediate impact of a relationship breakdown, or trying to move on after your divorce is final, they can help keep you focused and confident throughout the process.
  • Legal Clarity: While the coach doesn’t provide legal advice—that’s our job as solicitors—a clear head can make it easier to discuss options with your family lawyer.

Working Together

A divorce coach complements your legal team. With the emotional burden eased, you can better absorb the information and options your solicitor presents, ultimately making stronger, more informed decisions about your life post-divorce.

Finding a Qualified Divorce Coach

Professional Support
At HM & Co. Solicitors, we’ve partnered with the Divorce Coaching Academy, the UK’s only externally accredited specialist divorce training programme, to help you access some of the best professional divorce coaches available. You can browse our partner divorce coach profiles for more details on how they might assist you.

What Is a Divorce Coach?

A divorce coach is a trained professional who offers:

  • Emotional Guidance: Helping you handle feelings of grief, anger, or uncertainty.
  • Practical Advice: Managing day-to-day tasks and organising the demands that come with separation or divorce.
  • Strategic Planning: They act as a supportive sounding board for issues ranging from co-parenting to rebuilding confidence in everyday life.

They are there to motivate, encourage, and guide you before, during, or even after the legal process—helping you move forward with a renewed sense of control over your life.

How a Divorce Coach Can Help

  1. Emotional Support and Empowerment: Techniques for coping with domestic abuse or strong feelings of distress.
  2. Practical Guidance and Information: Including how to minimise costs and save time, and tips for building a solid support network.
  3. Parenting Models and Plans: Advice on alternative parenting arrangements and effective communication with your ex-partner.
  4. Focus on the Future: Strategies for setting goals and ensuring you continue to progress after the divorce is legally finalised.

Ready to Take the Next Step?

If you’d like to speak to a family law specialist or want more information on partner divorce coaches, HM & Co. Solicitors is here to assist.

HM & Co. Solicitors
186 Lower Road, Surrey Quays
London SE16 2UN

Telephone: 02071128180
Email: info@hmsolicitorsltd.com

By combining the expertise of our legal team with the emotional and practical support of a divorce coach, you can face your separation with greater confidence and clarity.

Your Questions, Answered

FAQs

Divorce FAQs

What is divorce?

Divorce is the legal process of ending a marriage through a court application. Once granted, both individuals are no longer legally married. However, certain legal obligations—such as maintenance orders or child arrangement orders—may still apply after divorce.

How do you get divorced?

There are four main stages in the divorce process:

  1. Complete a divorce application (Form D8) as a sole or joint applicant and pay the court fee (currently £593).
  2. Apply for a conditional order after your spouse acknowledges the application and a 20-week waiting period passes.
  3. Apply for a final order (6 weeks after the conditional order), which legally ends the marriage.

Keep in mind that divorce itself does not settle financial matters or child arrangements. A separate financial settlement and any necessary child arrangements must be made.

What are the grounds for divorce?

In England and Wales, a no-fault divorce system is in place. You only need to state that your marriage has irretrievably broken down, without assigning blame.

What is a 'divorce application'?

A divorce application (Form D8) initiates the divorce process. You can apply on your own (sole applicant) or jointly with your spouse. If you receive an application, you become the respondent. Applications can be made online or by post, and a court fee of £593 applies at the time of writing.

Can I get divorced?

To be eligible for a divorce or to dissolve a civil partnership, you must have been married or in the civil partnership for at least 12 months. If you haven’t reached this timeframe, you may be able to annul the marriage or seek a judicial separation.

Can we just separate? I don’t want a divorce.

If you separate without divorcing, you remain legally married and financially linked. Divorce-related financial claims remain open and can be dealt with later. Judicial separation is an option that allows you to remain married but legally separate. However, it is rarely used. Obtaining a divorce fully ends the marriage, although resolving financial matters requires a separate financial order.

I am in a same-sex marriage or civil partnership. Does this affect the process?

The process for ending a same-sex marriage or civil partnership is the same as for opposite-sex marriages.

There is violence in my relationship. What can I do?

If you are in immediate danger, call 999. You can also seek protection from the family court, such as orders regulating who lives in the family home or preventing certain behaviours. Further information and support are available for individuals facing domestic abuse.

What if my spouse refuses to accept the divorce?

It is difficult to halt divorce proceedings. Disputes are limited and usually involve the validity of the marriage. Most often, the divorce will proceed even if one spouse does not cooperate.

What if my spouse refuses to acknowledge the divorce application?

If your spouse does not respond to the application within 14 days, you can arrange for the papers to be served in person by a court bailiff or process server. Once service is proven, you can proceed with the divorce, regardless of cooperation.

 

What is a conditional order?

A conditional order confirms that the court sees no reason to prevent your divorce. Although an important milestone, it does not end the marriage. Both parties remain legally married until the final order is granted.

 

What is a final order?

Six weeks after the conditional order, you can apply for the final order, which legally ends your marriage or civil partnership. Keep the final order safe for future use, such as if you remarry or revert to your maiden name. It’s generally advisable to finalize financial arrangements before applying for the final order.

How long does a divorce take?

On average, a divorce in England and Wales takes about six to eight months. There are waiting periods built into the process:

  • A 20-week cooling-off period after the court issues the application, before you can apply for a conditional order.
  • A six-week wait after the conditional order, before applying for the final order.
    Delays can occur due to lack of cooperation, complex financial or child-related issues, or court backlogs.

 

How much does a divorce cost?

The court fee for processing a divorce application is currently £593. Additional costs vary depending on complexity, legal representation, and whether financial or child arrangements are contested. Fixed-fee divorce options may be available. Handling the divorce yourself online avoids solicitor fees for the divorce process itself, but legal advice on finances is strongly recommended.

 

Can I get Legal Aid?

Legal aid for family law matters is limited and generally available only in cases involving domestic abuse, child welfare, or social services. We do not offer legal aid; check the government’s legal aid website for approved providers.

 

Who pays the legal fees in a divorce?

Typically, each person covers their own legal costs. The applicant pays the court fee. In a joint application, applicant 1 usually pays the fee. You can ask the court to order that costs be shared, but such orders are rare. Costs related to the divorce itself are separate from those incurred when resolving finances and/or child arrangements.

 

Do I need a solicitor?

You can file the divorce application yourself. However, it’s strongly advised to seek legal advice on financial settlements. A solicitor ensures that your financial arrangements are fair and legally binding.

 

Can I use the same solicitor as my spouse?

No. Using the same solicitor would create a conflict of interest. Both parties should seek independent legal advice.

 

Will involving divorce law specialists make the process more hostile?

Not at all. Many solicitors are members of Resolution, a group committed to resolving family issues without conflict. Specialist lawyers aim to reduce hostility, not increase it.

Will I have to go to court?

For the divorce process itself, you usually won’t need to attend court if both parties cooperate. If financial or child arrangements are agreed amicably, these can be formalized without a hearing. However, if no agreement is reached, you may need to attend court hearings.

Can I change my name after divorce?

You can change your name at any time by simply starting to use a new one. However, a deed poll or similar document is often required to update official records. You cannot change your children’s names without the other parent’s consent.

What if mental health issues affect one spouse’s ability to make decisions?

English law assesses capacity based on the specific decision at hand. If a spouse cannot understand and consider information related to financial settlements or divorce decisions, a doctor may be needed to assess their capacity. If they lack capacity, a ‘litigation friend’ can be appointed to make decisions in their best interests.

 

Are there alternatives to divorce?

Yes. Judicial separation, annulment, and separation agreements are possible alternatives. These options might suit those not ready for a full divorce.

 

What is collaborative divorce?

Collaborative divorce involves both parties and their solicitors committing to resolving issues without going to court. This process encourages open communication, reduces conflict, and allows couples to maintain control over decisions, particularly when children are involved.

 

What is mediation?

Mediation involves meeting with a neutral mediator to reach agreements on finances and child arrangements. It can be faster, cheaper, and less stressful than court. While the mediator does not provide legal advice, you can seek independent legal guidance alongside mediation. Agreements reached can be made legally binding with the help of a solicitor.

What is arbitration?

Arbitration is a form of dispute resolution where a neutral arbitrator acts like a judge, reviewing evidence and issuing a binding decision. Benefits include flexibility, confidentiality, and potentially lower costs compared to court. However, both parties must agree to arbitration, and fees for the arbitrator apply.

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